I've tried to keep this blog strictly about Gregory. So, I've never thought about writing this. I got to thinking about it and I think its important to write about it. It goes along with what I'm sure a lot of parents of children with Galactosemia go through . . . Do you try for another?
Gregory was our first. We always wanted two kiddos. No more. Tommy and I both know we could not handle more than 2 kids. God gives you what you can handle. He knew we could handle a kid with Galactosemia (plus more) though. :) We wanted our kids to be no less than 3 years apart. We've been trying for almost a year and a half now and still no baby. I did get pregnant last August that resulted in a very early miscarriage. We still are trying. We want God's will in everything we do and find peace in knowing that its all in his timing. I think God is waiting for Gregory to be at a good spot in his life to handle having a new brother or sister. When he squeezed my friend's newborn's head (on her soft spots. MORTIFIED!) I am reminded of this. Ü
To have another or to not to?
When we had Gregory we had counselors at his metabolic clinic talk to us about having another, risks involved, tests that can be done to see if the baby in your belly has galactosemia and what you can do if it does (yowza! no way!), yada yada yada. Everyone has to make that decision. Here is where we stand:
We love Gregory.
We have a 1 in 4 chance of our next child having Galactosemia.
We have a 2 in 4 chance of our next child being a carrier like me and Tommy.
We have a 1 in 4 chance of our next child having nothing to do with it once so ever.
Low chances right? But Gregory has it.
What if its a girl? There are lots of yucky things that girls with Galactosemia go through. Is that fair for us to chance that? Just because we want to be selfish and have another child?
If the next child was like Gregory, would easier in some ways . . . Gregory wouldn't feel different. Making dinner. Easier. But are those things to trade for good health?
We feel content with just Gregory. But if you can have another, why wouldn't you? I think we would all benefit in the end. Don't think Gregory would be good as an only child. Or would he? What about when Tommy and are gone some day?
What to do? What to do?
We choose yes. We want another child God willing. God knows what we need and we find peace in that. In the mean time, we keep trying (not a terrible thing, right?). And then hopefully I'll be posting about Gregory's little sister or brother in the future. And if not, that's okay too.